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Attending university while raising a baby can be challenging, but it’s definitely possible! My husband Forrest and I managed to graduate while parenting our son, Jack, and we want to share how we made it work. Here’s our story, along with tips to help other student parents succeed.
When I first announced my pregnancy, I encountered an acquaintance who doubted my ability to finish college. She laughed and said, “Well…we’ll see about that.” This brief, dismissive comment fueled my determination. I was set on proving that having a baby wouldn’t stop me from earning my degree.
In April 2013, Forrest and I graduated with our Bachelor’s degrees, baby in tow! Was it more complicated than attending school without a child? Absolutely. But it was worth it, and if you’re in the same boat, it’s essential to know that you can do it, too. It’s been over ten years since we graduated, and I suspect there are even more options for flexibility than ever before. I am so grateful we made the sacrifices we did to finish college and have a baby at the same time. Our lives are so much better because we had that child and because we finished school.
8 Tips for Balancing College and Parenthood
1. Take Fewer Classes
Reducing your course load can make a world of difference. Instead of the 17 credits I used to take, I cut back to two or three classes per semester after Jack was born. This helped me manage my time better, improve my GPA, and allowed me to focus more on both my studies and my baby. While I graduated a year later than planned, it was worth the extra time to find balance.
2. Enlist Help
You can’t do it all alone, and that’s okay! Whether it’s family, friends, or community members, don’t hesitate to ask for help with babysitting or support when you need it. Be considerate by giving advance notice and offering to return the favor when possible. Having a support system can ease the load tremendously.
3. Know Your Resources
Most universities offer resources for student parents. These can include:
- On-campus daycare
- Family housing options
Check with your school’s student services or family support office to see what’s available. You may have to ask around, and some colleges may be more accommodating than other, but it’s worth it to find options that will work for you.
3. Talk with Professors
Communication is key. Let your professors know you have a baby and might need flexibility at times. When I was pregnant with Jack, I informed my professor early in the semester, and he worked with me to ensure I could meet course requirements. After Jack was born, I continued communicating with professors, who were understanding when I occasionally brought him to class or needed extra time for an assignment. Being upfront and professional made all the difference.
4. Utilize Grants and Scholarships
College is expensive, and financial aid can make a huge difference. Look into grants and scholarships, which don’t need to be repaid. Fill out the FAFSA to see if you qualify for grants, and explore scholarships offered by your department or university. These opportunities often have less competition, so don’t miss out on free financial support.
5. Plan Your Schedule Carefully
Scheduling classes around nap times and avoiding feeding times can help you manage both parenthood and school. When Forrest and I were both in school, we had to plan meticulously to avoid overlapping class times. Though we had a hiccup when Forrest had to add a last-minute class, planning ahead is essential to making everything work smoothly.
6. Baby Map Your Campus
Navigating campus with a baby can be tricky. Learn which bathrooms have changing tables and where to nurse your baby comfortably. Scout out ramps, elevators, and stroller-friendly routes to avoid inconvenient stairs or inaccessible areas. On one occasion, I carried Jack and his stroller up three flights of stairs because the elevator was out of service!
7. Explore Alternative Class Options
If possible, consider taking evening, online, or weekend classes. Many universities, including BYU where I attended, offer flexible parental options. I took online classes during my final semester, allowing me to finish my degree while caring for Jack. These alternative options were lifesaver, so check with your school to see what they offer.
8. Take It One Day at a Time
Some days will be harder than others, and there may be moments when you feel overwhelmed. But keep going! Walking across the stage to receive my diploma was one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. Even if it takes longer than expected, remember that you’re doing something incredible for both yourself and your family.
Final Thoughts
Having a baby doesn’t mean you must give up on your dream of graduating. It’s a new adventure, and while it comes with challenges, it’s absolutely possible. Take it step by step, ask for help when you need it, and believe in yourself—you can do it!
